Making self care a RITUAL
My kids get giddy at the slightest hint of a snow day. Even at 12 and 10 years old, they still perform “snow day rituals” to increase their chances: putting a white crayon in the freezer, flushing ice cubes down the toilet, wearing their pajamas inside-out, and sleeping with a spoon under their pillow. It's their playful way of inviting magic and mystery into their hopeful wish of no school. Watching them, I’m reminded how rituals can turn an ordinary moment into something special.
But what exactly is a ritual, and why should you practice them?
A ritual is a series of intentional actions, often symbolic, that are repeated regularly. Unlike ceremonies, which mark significant life events like weddings or baptisms, rituals hold personal meaning and add sacredness to everyday life. We all have some form of rituals: a morning prayer, making coffee, or reading before bed. These practices help us slow down and engage fully in the present moment.
Turning routine activities into rituals can bring more joy and mindfulness to our day. Rituals help us be more conscious, connected, and present. They remind us to honor ourselves and our lives.
So how would it feel to ritualize your self care? What would it look like to bring more presence, care, attention and LOVE into nurturing your body, mind and spirit?
One of my favorite self-care rituals is my weekly abhyanga (self-oil massage). Every Sunday morning, I prepare a warm, cozy space with candles, a space heater, and heated oils. I spend 20-30 unapologetic minutes alone in my bathroom, performing this Ayurvedic practice while my family is still asleep. It's a time for self-love, relaxation, and deep nourishment. Even though Ayurveda recommends a daily self-oil massage, my modern life only allows for a weekly practice....which makes this ritual feel even more special!
The key to a ritual is not just what you do, but how you do it. If I rush through my practice or multitask, it loses its significance. Rituals require pausing, being present, and moving with intention. When I take my time, my abhyanga practice becomes an embodied experience. I'm able to see my body as a temple and give it the love, respect and appreciation it deserves. My mind is calm and peaceful, and my spirit remembers wholeness.
If your self care lacks mindfulness, start small. Try blessing your food, sitting quietly for a few minutes to focus on your breath, or sipping herbal tea while watching the sunrise. You can turn anything into a ritual, and create an opportunity to transition from doing to being.
What’s one simple action you can turn into a ritual to create a pause in your day? Maybe you’ll start with a snow day ritual!
“Rituals are like electrically powered transmitters sending stimulating sparks of electric current or inspirational feelings that connect us to our inner being or soul.” – Wes Adamson
Be well,
Shannon
I would LOVE to hear what rituals you create! Feel free to email me and share!